ADHD glossary · Family perspectives
Timer: agree what happens when it ends
A timer marks an interval of time. In our household examples, it is an optional way to signal an agreed check-in or stopping point. Its duration, signal, and meaning belong in the agreement, not just on the device.
General education and practical perspectives. Editorial standards.
The question here is “How do we use a timer without leaving its rules unspoken?” A reminder delivers a prompt; a time block reserves part of a schedule. A timer measures an interval while something is happening. It does not establish how long a person ought to need, and its alarm does not prove that a task is finished.
Worked example: sorting one stack of papers
This invented scene concerns ordinary household papers, not confidential records. One partner wants company while separating a small stack into “keep here,” “belongs elsewhere,” and “question for later.” The other partner agrees to sit nearby with a separate task.
They choose ten minutes for this particular session. That number is an illustrative choice, not a recommended attention span or work method. The person sorting asks for a visible countdown without sound. They agree that when it ends, they will pause and decide whether to continue; the other partner will not inspect the pile or announce how much should have been done.
Before starting, they choose a tray for undecided papers. At the signal, the person sorting can put the unfinished stack there and say, “I am stopping here.” If both want another interval, they choose it then. There is no automatic extension and no requirement to justify stopping.
A child or sibling sharing the room is not given the job of watching the timer. If the chosen signal would interrupt them, the adults choose another signal or place. If another person joins the session, explain the agreement rather than assuming they know what the countdown means.
Copy a timer agreement
Task or activity:
People who want the timer:
Purpose: check in / stop / another agreed purpose:
Interval chosen for this session:
Who sets it and who can pause or cancel it:
Signal: visible / sound / another available option:
What happens when it ends:
Where unfinished materials will go:
What happens if the device does not signal:
Any effect on other people sharing the space:
Try the signal before the session if you are unsure what it does. We do not require a particular product, paid app, or RDY account. A person can also decline a timer and agree on a spoken check-in instead.
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Questions you may have
What is the best interval?
This page does not prescribe one. Choose an interval the participants want to try for the actual activity. Do not use another person's interval as evidence about what you should be able to do.
What if it rings while someone is in the middle of something?
Follow the meaning agreed beforehand: perhaps pause to decide, rather than drop everything. A craft, conversation, and household handoff may need different stopping arrangements. This example is not a timing procedure for safety-critical tasks.
What if someone keeps restarting it for me?
Pause the arrangement. Another person's wish for more work is not the same as your agreement to another interval. Name who controls extensions before trying again.
When should we stop using it?
Stop or change the setup if the signal is unwanted, the device is distracting to its users, or the timer is being used to enforce completion or compare people. An unfinished stack is information about the task's current state, not a score.
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