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ADHD glossary · Family perspectives

Follow-up: return to one identified open question

A follow-up is a return to an earlier conversation or unfinished item. Our version names the particular question, what has changed since the first conversation, and whether another response is still needed. It is an ordinary coordination step, not permission for repeated unwanted contact.

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An action item describes a piece of work someone has accepted. A follow-up may ask about that work, but the message is not the work itself. A broader check-in might review how a whole arrangement is going. Here, the focus is one open point from an earlier exchange.

Worked example: a game-night question

Two fictional households are arranging a casual game night. One person asks whether a neighbor would like to bring a particular board game. The neighbor says they need to check whether its instruction booklet is in the box and invites one follow-up on Sunday afternoon if they have not replied.

Before Sunday, the organizer finds that another guest can offer a different game. The follow-up therefore includes the new information: “You mentioned checking the booklet. We also have another game available now. Would you still like to bring yours, or shall we leave it for another time?”

The message does not accuse the neighbor of forgetting or convert their earlier willingness to check into a commitment to bring the game. If they decline, the question closes. Their child is not asked to find the booklet or explain the adult's response.

Keep a return-to-it note

Earlier conversation or item:
The exact point still open:
Who agreed to return to it, if anyone:
Agreed time and channel, if there is one:
New information since the earlier exchange:
The one answer or action now being requested:
What I will do if it remains unresolved:
Reply received / still unknown / no longer needed:
Reason to close the item or ask about another contact:

A private note for yourself is not an instruction to somebody else. Check that the request is still relevant before sending it. If the question has been answered, acknowledge the answer and stop treating the item as open merely because you have not updated your note.

Avoid adding hidden requests

“Just following up” can leave the recipient searching for the question. Restate the necessary context briefly and say what you are asking now. If the request has expanded, make that change visible. Asking whether the game is available is different from asking the neighbor to teach everyone its rules.

A partner can agree to send one message without becoming responsible for securing a yes. A teen can handle their own invitation when that fits the arrangement; an adult need not contact several friends on their behalf without discussing it. Keep other people's private explanations out of a shared status note.

Know when the return ends

If someone asks not to be contacted, do not treat this template as a reason to continue. A missing reply is not approval to switch channels or involve relatives. Make your own next decision with the information you actually have. This page excludes medical follow-up, debt collection, formal notices, and other situations needing their own procedures or authority.

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